Passion and Your True Calling

By believing passionately in something that still does not exist, we create it. The nonexistent is whatever we have not sufficiently desired.” – Franz Kafka

Growing up, we are passionate about more things than we can probably count on our fingers. But what happens when that childlike belief of conquering the world wears off and we realize the true enormity of the world we live in?
Each one of us has that distinct moment wherein, for the very first time, we are faced with a true existential crisis. The moment we realize being a cosmetic surgeon or the CEO of an MNC is much more than just talking the talk. The worst is when you realize that you have spent too much time “day dreaming” and not enough trying to actively achieve that day dream. This is when your day dream turns into a full-fledged daymare and you’re launched into a tizzy of thoughts that are so alien to your prior happy being that you’re convinced of your insanity.
Being a 20 something I have gone through all of the above and worse. I know that there is a large percentage of people out there who have it all figured out and probably never have to go through this turmoil of a realization. However I am also convinced that there are many more like me out there, struggling to get a grasp on their reality.
So what happens to the likes of us? Do we meander aimlessly through life devoid of a passion or calling? For the sake of my sanity I surely hope not. I like to believe that in my shortcomings lays my victory. All of us are not cut out the same and some of us may have a more profound calling. This may be rooted in the struggle to have a more content family life; it may be a personal struggle to overcome your own limitations or like me, it may be a struggle caused by the overwhelming number of opportunities presented to an individual in this day and age.
Back in the day things were much simpler. The world as we knew it had a few things to offer & not too many things to delve into it. However now, every function has a sub function, every department has innumerous specializations. Gone are the days when writers were just writers. Now there are long form/short form writers, bloggers, copywriters, social media specialists, content producers, curators and the list just goes on. So how does one chose? How does one decide that they are a curator and not a social media specialist?

Well, the key as per me is in the non-selection. Choosing between being a curator and a social media specialist is hardly a choice at all, so rather be a person of multiple traits. It takes as much amount of intellect and strength to be able to master multiple skills as it does to single heartedly master one. At least for me knowing that my mind has the capacity to excel & accept various schools of thought provides to me a great deal of strength.
So my advice to all the lost souls out there would be, don’t lose hope! As the quote above mentions, desire everything you can and much more. Its only when you stop desiring that you truly are lost.

Monogamy

Let’s start with the question what is monogamy?

Follow it up with another: Why is it so important to us?

Gibbons, a type of apes; Swans and some other animals mate with the same partner for years and sometimes even a lifetime.  So is monogamy something we imbibed from our animal friends in the path to evolution? Or is it a quality that is innately human but only distorted now because of globalization, westernization and the likes?

I’ve found myself pondering way too often on this concept of “monogamy”; wondering whether it’s my own fundamental emotion to want that in a relationship or is it something that society has wired into me?

At this juncture I’d like to infer an instance from the movie “Ship of theseus” wherein one of the characters, Charvaka quotes the following to Maitreya:

“How do you know where you end and where your environment begins?”

This wonderment originates from Charvaka trying to understand how can we differentiate our inherent being from the being that has been created due to societal and cultural influences. He wonders if we would ever be able to differentiate that distinct point where we stopped being ourselves and transformed into something that is imbibed from our surroundings.

My situation is very similar to that, as I try to decide my stance on this highly ingrained-in-my-roots concept of monogamy.

A perpetual intermediary conclusion is that monogamy should be left as a choice. If 2 people feel the need to swear their love for eternity to each other, so be it; if two people don’t feel a similar need then so be that as well.

This is not to take a diplomatic stand on an otherwise controversial topic in this world, but to face reality. Monogamy is a very dire concept introduced by the so called leaders of our society. It’s not fighting the cause of love but the cause of constraining pandemics: STDs, abandoned childhoods and much more. Monogamy is not so much an individual choice anymore as it is a necessity.

Somewhere in the course of evolution the human conscience became larger than the human itself.  We outgrew our basic instincts and flooded our minds with insecurity, jealousy, envy and the sheer need to own and control another human.

Imagine a world wherein monogamy didn’t exist? I could only fret at the thought of that. So now I feel a bit misguided, I feel I’ve spent all my life believing in something that wasn’t true. I believed monogamy was a testament of true love & belonging, whereas it turns out it’s anything but that! Monogamy is a political concept, yes that’s my conclusion. It’s been strategically introduced in our world to support our weaknesses. It’s the direct result of human attachment, insecurity & our ever growing conscience. However if you aren’t monogamous then you are wayward, is it? What happens when you choose to shun societal know hows and go the wayward path? Do you really have a chance at a “happy” life? Or will your own insecurities eat at you in ways that you possibly cannot fathom?

I guess I would truly have an answer if and when I manage to escape my own humanism and have the courage to devolve my conscience, if that’s even possible.